CONTROL
Control situation…
You’re sitting at work whether it’s at the office or home and there’s a constant nagging in the back of your mind and the pit of your stomach. You could write and rewrite an email a million times. You NEED it to be good enough.
The last thing you want is for anyone to question the quality of your work. You NEED your job. Your family NEEDS for you to have this job. The pressure to prove yourself is powerful. It feels like life has to be so regimented because if you step out of line, things might fall apart.
Control struggle…
This feeling is exhausting, the constant spinning of your wheels trying to keep tabs on everyone and everything. It’s possible to sit down for 15 minutes and get up even more tired, because your mind has been doing mental gymnastics and we all know that can be just as draining as running a marathon.
You worry about your extended family, your kids, your job but at the root you wonder if YOU’RE doing it all right. You are just as hard on yourself as you are on everyone else (maybe even harder).
Shouldn’t life be more enjoyable at this point? Shouldn’t you enjoy your job a little more? And truth be told, shouldn’t you enjoy the people in your life a little more too? Not that you’d say that to them, but maybe the constant worry takes away from the enjoyment a little bit or maybe a lot.
So, at this point you just feel stuck, unsure if there’s another way and if so, how do you get there?
Control solution…
Imagine coming to the end of the day and being able to rest easy not because you finished everything on your to-do list or because everyone has done everything you told them, but being satisfied with the time you spent together.
Getting to have some quality time with your partner or your kids or a good friend without worrying about all the things you aren’t getting done. Imagine the freedom to just BE.
I understand the struggle with control. Under it all is a love for people and a desire for them and YOU to be the best they can be, to be happy and have a good life, but you’re missing out on the GOOD life in the meantime.
We will take a look at what’s underneath the desire for control and deal with it. You will rest easy and enjoy life again.